Category Archives: Life

Reverb 10


I first found Reverb last year when Shauna wrote a post on it over at The Amazing Adventures of Diet Girl. I then signed up foir the emails and thought about the prompts each day. As I didn’t have a blog or twitter account back then i just did a lot of it in my head, but they have just sent around the August prompt so I thought I would post on it 🙂

August Prompt – Describe an unexpected moment, activity, sighting, or conversation that touched you during July.

On the very last day of July I went to visit my sister just to have a catch up. It turned into a really good afternoon where we both found out we have more in common that we thought. I don’t want to go into details of what we talked about but it just goes to show that even sisters can find new things out about each other at random unexpected times.

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Quarter Life Crisis

I linked to this article in a previous post, but something about it resonated with me so I wanted to talk about it more.

This picture from Edward Monkton illustrates how I feel:

Source

I have now have a few ideas about where I would like my life to go, but I ahve no idea how to get there. This quote from the article sums up how I feel the majority of the time:

“Today’s young adults often struggle with the multitude of options available, driving them to feel anxiety, depression and a sense of being trapped or ‘locked into’ a marriage or a job that doesn’t feel right.”

I have been finding it hard to adjust to being a student to working a 9-5 job over the past 3 years and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier. Sometimes I feel like there are so many things I want to that I surely cannot do them all. I also think what is the point in doing something if they will not help towards my career. I do not like this way of thinking and I would like to change it. I am currently looking at my options of my future, like studying, jobs, places to live. All these things and it can get a bit overwhelming.

I think the below quote also plays a bigger part in my life than I realise:

“Pressure to meet parents’ demands can add to the sense of crisis among today’s young adults”

Living at home at 26 is not easy. In a way it’s very easy, I don’t have to worry about paying the bills or cleaning the house. But living with my parents can be difficult. We are no longer living by the Parent-Child rules I suppose as we are all adults. However there are still many time I feel like the child, which I know I still am to my parents, but that can get very frustrating. I’m not complaining though as I have it a lot better than others and therefore I am lucky I can still live at home and that I get on with my parents enough to do so.

This article in the New Scientist  describes that there are 5 phases to a quarter life crisis:

  • Phase 1 – A feeling of being trapped by your life choices. Feeling as though you are living your life on autopilot.
  • Phase 2 – A rising sense of “I’ve got to get out” and the feeling that you can change your life.
  • Phase 3 – Quitting the job or relationship or whatever else is making you feel trapped and embarking on a “time out” period where you try out new experiences to find out who you want to be.
  • Phase 4 – Rebuilding your life.
  • Phase 5 – Developing new commitments more attuned to your interests and aspirations.
I am currently in Phase 2. I think I have only recently moved out of Phase 1 so I am making progress. Phase 3 is being planned for with taking a couple of courses and with my Canada Trip in a few months. But I am planning on coming back and deep down I don’t think I really don’t want to come back to what I am doing now. I am worried I will go into Phase 3 then move back into Phase 2 as soon as I return!
Worry is an awful thing! I just need to remember what I want for my life and keep making steps, even tiny ones, towards where I want to be.
It’s not about the destination; it’s the journey that’s the adventure 🙂