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Quarter Life Crisis

I linked to this article in a previous post, but something about it resonated with me so I wanted to talk about it more.

This picture from Edward Monkton illustrates how I feel:

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I have now have a few ideas about where I would like my life to go, but I ahve no idea how to get there. This quote from the article sums up how I feel the majority of the time:

“Today’s young adults often struggle with the multitude of options available, driving them to feel anxiety, depression and a sense of being trapped or ‘locked into’ a marriage or a job that doesn’t feel right.”

I have been finding it hard to adjust to being a student to working a 9-5 job over the past 3 years and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier. Sometimes I feel like there are so many things I want to that I surely cannot do them all. I also think what is the point in doing something if they will not help towards my career. I do not like this way of thinking and I would like to change it. I am currently looking at my options of my future, like studying, jobs, places to live. All these things and it can get a bit overwhelming.

I think the below quote also plays a bigger part in my life than I realise:

“Pressure to meet parents’ demands can add to the sense of crisis among today’s young adults”

Living at home at 26 is not easy. In a way it’s very easy, I don’t have to worry about paying the bills or cleaning the house. But living with my parents can be difficult. We are no longer living by the Parent-Child rules I suppose as we are all adults. However there are still many time I feel like the child, which I know I still am to my parents, but that can get very frustrating. I’m not complaining though as I have it a lot better than others and therefore I am lucky I can still live at home and that I get on with my parents enough to do so.

This article in the New Scientist  describes that there are 5 phases to a quarter life crisis:

  • Phase 1 – A feeling of being trapped by your life choices. Feeling as though you are living your life on autopilot.
  • Phase 2 – A rising sense of “I’ve got to get out” and the feeling that you can change your life.
  • Phase 3 – Quitting the job or relationship or whatever else is making you feel trapped and embarking on a “time out” period where you try out new experiences to find out who you want to be.
  • Phase 4 – Rebuilding your life.
  • Phase 5 – Developing new commitments more attuned to your interests and aspirations.
I am currently in Phase 2. I think I have only recently moved out of Phase 1 so I am making progress. Phase 3 is being planned for with taking a couple of courses and with my Canada Trip in a few months. But I am planning on coming back and deep down I don’t think I really don’t want to come back to what I am doing now. I am worried I will go into Phase 3 then move back into Phase 2 as soon as I return!
Worry is an awful thing! I just need to remember what I want for my life and keep making steps, even tiny ones, towards where I want to be.
It’s not about the destination; it’s the journey that’s the adventure 🙂